Sometimes, the question that crosses my mind is “Why is it so hard to understand each other?”
It’s like when you’re questioning why they do this and that, why they don’t think the same as you, why they can’t feel the same, or why they don’t care about the things that actually matter (for you). Is it because we’re too caught up in our own, and don’t look at others so we are left with a misunderstanding?
People are a lived complexity. We’re all raised so differently and operate in different principles. Perceive this world in different views, sink in different considerations, ache in different sorrows, sew life in different patterns, spark in different shades of color, face different problems, and bloom in different ways. We don’t actually know what goes within someone’s self or how it feels like to be in their position and dealing with how life actually treats them, right? All we know is the way they’re showing up in our lives, knitting the connection as human beings, exist as a part of society, and will slowly left behind in our page of journey.
When it comes to communicating and we fall into arguing, we often stuck between what is right and what is wrong. And for some people arguments are nothing more than people trying to prove that they were right and ignoring what other people had to say. It’s no more a session of sharing thoughts and ideas to open up our minds and see from another perspective. Of course, we have different ways of thinking and different paths of decision. But the problems are egoism and lack of empathy.
We think the reason why we can’t understand others is because it’s too complicated, isn’t it? or we never really try to? It feels hard to listen to others when it interferes with what goes on in our minds. To admit that we are wrong. To admit that there are better ideas. And that makes us become stubborn. Closing our windows from everything that speaks outside. That’s what it’s called “self-centered”.
But how long will we always put ourselves above others?
I hope that as time goes by we’ll become wiser in dealing with our own ego. Imagine how others might be feeling in any given situation and not only concerned with our own feelings and needs.
We need to put ourselves in their shoes first.
So we can realize the depth of knowing and feel the beauty of understanding. And probably when we finally know the reason behind someone’s action, we don’t think we can blame them anymore.
Care for others is the key, we’re sharing the same world, aren’t we?
I crave the moment when we can finally understand each other without even having to use any words. It’s about being vulnerable without being judged.
